Had an abortion at 17 - now i'm 27.... the things that haunt me...
That we make life so hard for one another to the point of having to do away with our children. I have learn't that a lot of abortion is due to difficult childhood issues. I wonder if your mum had an abortion at sometime?
Sillysilver it seems to me that you need to grieve for both of the babes, the one that was aborted and the other that you saw, they seem to be two distinct beings.
With concern for you
I used to know of a lady who this happened to: She had an unplanned pregnancy and had an abortion, a few weeks later she was pregnant again, she was very shocked to find that the pregnancy was very advanced and too late to have an abortion, she had the baby and it was indeed the twin of the aborted infant. I found it very hard to believe but now you are saying the same thing, so it seems that is possible.
Thank you for reading and replying Casey x
I think a 13 week baby is about 13 cm long, so it prob is what you saw. As for the whole getting over it think, when your happy in your mind about the decision you made you will come to terms with it. You have to grieve for the loss of your baby even tho it was your decision to end the pregnancy. You must have been in a reaaly dark place at the time. But i wish you well for the future xx
Hey Abbie, thank you for your message. Yes I was in a very dark place, and it was a very difficult event to deal with - sometimes it still is hard and I doubt I will ever truly get over it (so to speak..) but it gets easier with time xx
I read your story and you've been thru a lot. You should speak to someone about what happened to you even if its just to get it off your chest.
You made the right decision at the time, hopefully one day you will meet Mr right and have the perfect relationship and give your kids everything you wish for.