Going through a natural miscarriage at 8 weeks!!
Thanks so much everyone for sharing your stories - it made going through this experience a lot easier and I had a good idea of what to expect. I thought I would share my story as well..
I had an unplanned pregnancy but was very excited and felt very attached to the little baby growing inside of me.
I had planned to go to the doctors after I was at 10 weeks as then I would I be able to have an ultra sound as well.
However at 8 weeks and 4 days I noticed light cramping like period pain and brown spotting. I had also been very moody like I usually am right before my period. I knew straight away that it was going to be a miscarraige as I no longer had any pregnancy symptoms and hadn't for the last week (I just thought I was lucky!) I took a pregancy test that night and it was negative so I was surpised to see that my hormone levels droppped so quickly! I thought the baby must have passed away at least 2 weeks ago to be able to get a neg preg test this soon. I took another in the morning and there was a very faint positive line.
For the next two and a half weeks I bleed on and off sometimes bright red with small clots and other times it was just light brown spotting. It then started to taper off and I thought the miscarraige was over and that I must have only been 5 or 6 weeks when baby passed as I did not see an embryo or sac etc.
A couple of days later I woke up in the night with really bad period pain and very heavy bleeding. I was up most of the night. The bleeding remained steady all of the next day and the next night the pain was really bad. I kept waking up with the worst cramping I have ever had - I could not lie still. On a scale of 1-10 for pain it was about an 8 for me. I was up and down to the toilet with large blood clots coming out. The pain was almost unbearable and then all of a sudden I felt like I needed to push and a golf ball size tissue and mucous came out (I'm guessing this was the mucous plug) about 2 minutes later the baby came out. It was still in the sac but the sac was deflated. It looked like the pictures on the baby development sites of a 7 or 8 weeks old baby. I could see it's arm with its teeny tiny fingers. I wanted to keep it and bury it maybe but we only rent our house and were moving soon so I felt wierd about burying it here so I ended up flushing it
For the next week the bleeding continued like a normal period and I decided to enter a horse show for the following weekend seeing as the bleeding was now manageable - BAD IDEA! The bleeding was very very heavy over the weekend and while at my horse show I was constantly back and forth changing pads. Everytime I would sit on the toilet heaps of blood would come out. This paired with having to wear white pants was not a fun time. I didn't have any blood come through onto my riding pants thank god but I was very paranoid that's for sure. The bleeding got lighter again over the next two days and finally slowed and stopped. My miscarraige took 1 month and 1 week all up from start to finish.
I was very glad I choose to miscarry naturally. At first I was kind of scared to see the actual baby and I thought it would be traumatising but once it finally came out I was more curious and I acutally wanted to see it - my hormones were up and down and I was very tearful throughout and I found it really hard to see babies or see pregnancy pics from friends on facebook - I would burst into tears when I saw them. Around 2 weeks after it all I felt a lot better emotionally and physically. It took a month and a half to get my next period but while waiting for my next period my horomones were all over the place. I got acne over my face, chest and back and have never had acne once in my life. I also got a lot of headaches. When I finally did get my period it came with no warning whatsoever - no PMS or anything. Since it was not a planned pregnancy I don't think I will TTC any time soon but I think I would like to try in another year so fingers crossed I can have a successful pregnancy next time around!
I found out I was pregnant wed just last and had a miscarriage the next day I don't know why that was my 3rd time getting pregnant and first time having one I went to the bathroom and that's when I seen the baby went to the emergency room and that's when thy confirmed what I seen was the baby cuz they did an ultrasound and didn't detect no gestation(baby) I was only 4-5 weeks bcuz I had just notice I missed my period but anyway I wasn't hurting I wasn't bleeding it just happen and now after it happen I don't see no blood till I go to the bathroom and do #2 I guess bcuz I be straining is this normal have anybody else went thru this? Dis is very stressing I wake up In the middle of the night crying dreaming bout my baby I just want to be able to get thru this is there something I can do?
I've had a very similar experience - my second scan at the EPAU is tomorrow but there's no doubt whatsoever as I've bled heavily this last week since the first scan and passed what looked like the sac this morning. It's horrible. I didn't even want to be pregnant in the first place - but I'd come round and got excited about it. My partner who wanted a baby was the opposite - having wanted the baby then thrown me and it out at 6 weeks. I must confess I didn't expect there to be so much pain with a miscarriage.
Now it's not possible to try again even - and at 42 it looks like I have to readapt to the idea of never having children. You tell yourself there must have been something very wrong (mine didn't develop a heart) and it's lucky the foetus didn't grow even more before it died. There's also a lack of sympathy as my now ex partner (still not sure why on that score) won't speak to me, and my mother who I'm staying with is pleased as she'd wanted me to abort it - and saying I hope you think it was worth it as I cramped over with the pain. Life's cruel and I'll miss my little one I would have cherished forever.
So I wish you all the luck in the world when this is over in trying again - and there's no reason to suspect it won't be a keeper next time. I very much hope it is.
it's sad so sorry about that maybe we talk in private
I posted on here on 17th january to say that i had to go back to the hospital to have another scan done i went back and they told me that the baby hadn't grown at all since i had last been up there which was a week before, they said there was nothing they could do and i would end up having a miscarriage, on 25th january i miscarried me and my partner have been ttc for a baby since february nothing yet but will keep everyone updated so fingers crossed xx
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I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am not sure if my story will help or not but I feel like I need to tell it.
I have had three miscarriages. The first in 2006 when I was 11 weeks pregnant with twins. I wiped one morning and there was blood. I rushed to the hospital to be told hours later by a very rude nurse, my babies had died. About a year later I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. I had troubles bonding during the pregnancy. I was just sure one day I was going to wake up and she would be dead so I didn't want to get attached. Same thing for my husband. My daughter is a true blessing. 4 months after she was born I underwent surgery to remove part of my ovary due to a cyst. I had already lost my left ovary and Fallopian tube. Now I lost 1/2 of my right ovary. a year later I got pregnant again and had another miscarriage at 9 weeks. A couple months later another miscarriage at 8 weeks. Then I got pregnant again and had my younger daughter in October of 09. After that doctors did some tests and said my uterus was damaged and I would not likely be able to get pregnant again. Well on April 10th I found out I was pregnant again. I was ecstatic. I felt like it was a miracle and God had a plan for this baby. I was 5 weeks along. I ate healthy, took my vitamins, exercised daily. I did everything you are "supposed to do" I had a strange peace about this pregnancy and even told my friends and family which I normally don't do until i'm past the "safe" mark, for good reason. I felt like I was going to carry this one all the way through and even named him even though I didn't for sure know it was a him! Malachi Nicholas. It was a beautiful name for a beautiful baby. On April 22nd I got ready for bed. I brushed my teeth, washed my face, and went the bathroom. When I wiped my heart stopped. I looked at the tissue, which is habit for me when I am pregnant, and there was light brown discharge on it. "No No No!!!! This can't be happening" i thought to myself. "Please don't let this happen to me Jesus. Please" I begged. I tried to calm myself down. "Spotting is normal at 7 weeks. It's totally normal relax" There was no use I knew deep down that even though it was normal for some people it was not normal for me. It was a death sentence. I knew my baby had died. I tried to calm down but there was no reasoning. I started to cry. Quiet at first but then I couldn't contain myself. My husband heard me crying and came in. It took me a while to get the words out, "i'm bleeding." my husband tried to tell me what i tried to tell myself. It's normal it will be alright. I think he believed it more than i did. I cried myself to sleep that night. The next day I was still spotting but it was still brown and I started to feel hopeful. I laid low all day. Felt like crap all day tuesday. Put myself on bedrest. I was having moderate cramps and still spotting pink. Wednesday I woke up feeling much better and very little spotting. I read up about miscarriages and saw that exercise would not effect it negatively. So I played softball and had a great time. Got home and the bleeding was worse. Cramps got worse that night. This morning I woke up and passed a clot about the size of a quarter. All hope that I had got flushed. all day I have had cramps and increased spotting. I say "probably miscarriage" because because I have yet to start bleeding like a period. I wish my body would just make up it's mind and either stop bleeding or just get it over with. I can't stand this limbo crap. I already feel like my baby has died. I already feel like part of me has died. I don't know how to move on from this one.
It is possible to move on and try again though. I have done it three times. If i didn't, i wouldn't have my two beautiful daughters. It is so very hard. the twins rocked my world and if I were you I would come up with some clever way to mourn them. I wish I could have had something to bury or plant a cool tree but I rented. I don't believe in tatoos. I don't know what to do to mourn my beautiful babies that I never met. I would do something though. Let yourself cry as often as you need. Think about your baby often. If you don't fully process this, your going to go through hell when you get pregnant again. Draw close to the Lord and pray for strength and grace. Explain to your husband how much you need him through this. Good luck I will pray for you.
hello im new to this, i found out i was pregnant around 5 weeks, i started having brown spotting so i rang my gp who sent to the early pregnancy clinic where they did a scan but because i was to early they couldnt see a heartbeat and was told to come back 10 days later but 3 days before i was meant to come back i had a gush of red blood so got sent there again they scanned me to tell me that my baby was 6 weeks 5 days normal heartbeat and measuring the right size, so i went the next 4 weeks with no bleeding no cramping nothing! untill a few days ago when i started getting the brown discharge well i didnt think nothing of it as i was told it was normal for my heart shaped womb! but then i had red blood so i rang my midwife who told me to have a scan and an injection because i was "A negative blood group" so i went back to the clinic went in for my scan and she was taking ages i knew straight away that something was wrong because i 12 weeks the next day and i couldnt see nothing, my parnter looks at me with a smile and said its there, but then the women turned and said that she couldnt find a heart beat and it hasnt grown since 8 weeks! i just cant believe its been 4 weeks and nothing happend in that time. she toke us to this room where a midwife come in (the one who told me last time that it was common to bleed with my womb how wrong!) and asked me what i wanted to do either go home and miscarry or have surgery, well im 20 this is my first pregnacy im only 4ft 11 and ive heared all kinds of storys about women not being able to move bleeding uncontrolably and that just wasnt an option for me so i said i wanted the surgery. she went out the room only to return and say that they cant do the surgery untill 2 WEEKS TIME. but she might be able to "fit me in" on tuesday and will ring monday. to me this is completely unacceptable im bleeding already with cramping, but i am so terifed of whats going to happen i havnt been told anything all i seen and heared is how its only to be VERY painful and ALOT of blood. she went on to scare me a bit more by saying because your tiny and u lose quite alot of blood its likly your going to faint and go into shock if that happens ring an ambulance?! seriously. i just lost my baby and i feel so upset that its been inside me for 4 weeks not knowing it had died and i really just wanted it over with by having something i wanted like the surgery is that so much to ask for but she knows and it will happen before then im so scared of what is going to happen what im going to feel or see, so what can i expect?
I've had exactly the same problem went for a scan last week they asked me how far gone i was i said eight weeks, they said the baby looks too small for me to be eight weeks for the size of it i should be about six weeks gone (this was last thursday so i'm either 9 or 7 weeks gone this week) got to go back for another scan on thursday (in 2 days) so hopefully everythings ok, you never know people do have small babies
hi, i understand what u are going through.
last week i had a miscarriage at 13 weeks. when i found out i was pregnant i did not have a clue what to do. im 22 but in university with no money. i had decided to go for a counselling session to see what choices i had. i never got round to the counselling (even though i decided a couple weeks before to keep the baby). i started having brown spotting and i went to the doctor the next day and she didnt even examine me or seem to concerned. later that night i had a miscarriage. very heavy bleeding and clotting. was one of the worst experiences ive ever been through. i had to tell my parents who had no idea i was even pregnant. the worst thing was i think i saw the feotus in my sanitary towel, a blob about 2.4 inches long with two arms and fingers. that will haunt me for the rest of my life.
ive decided to see my university councillor as i think i may still be struggling to get over it. =[
maybe seeing a councillor will help you get through this hard time? first you need to grieve for your loss and then when you have done that approx 3 months later try again? do not rush into it, make sure ur body recovers.however, i wish all the best for you.x
i'm really sorry to hear that, i went through exactly the same at weeks with pinkish discharge to begin with and then really heavy blood with clots. and the pain was unbearable. i am still bleeding a little now.
found out i was pregnant in the third wk of october...i didnt have any symtoms whatsoever....none..nada...i found out because me and my husband has been trying...after my first mis period i took the test n it said positive..we were sooo happy...we came up names frm the start<chelsea...or alejandro > i joined the clinic went to parenting classes n all that...wen it as time for my checkup <at 6wks> we found out it was jus an empty sac..n it was growing<was told the sac stil gros> i almst died en i found out..i was in disbelief...so i did the ultra sound 5 time...waited 2 wks n did it again....it was true n the next day i set the appointmen to do the DnC...i as told to buy 6 Cytotec<to induce labour> they inserted 2 at first in the morning..so we waited n waited no pain so they inserted the remaining 4...no pain no anything..i went that entire day without eating..no pain no anything...so then nexy day they inserted 6 mre cytotec...nothing! n they 6 mre cytotec!!!! nothing!!!!!!!!!! i as in there for a wk..n didnt eat for 72 hrs....i had 6 doctor..all stun n didnt kno what to do....in fear of me getting a heart attack they didnt wanted to insert anymre....yes they were inserted correctly...n all of them dissolved...cevic stil shut close tight..they ait a day n then inserted two mre<by this time my entire community were praying for me> i aited 6 hrs n the started to pray..4 hrs later i felt sme minor pain like a lil prick...it as my cervix dialating....it had opened up 6 cm... no major pain...i then went to do the DnC...we it as over i didnt feel anything completely normal! no headaches or aany side affect..wen i woke up frm the operation i wlk str8 to my husban feeeling normal....
i ish i hav aited for it to happen naturally.....
no im having headaches..severe ones.... do u think that taking 20 cytotec my hav affected me health wise...worried
hi im going frow the same think i was 20 weeks pregnant and when i when for my scan i was 9 weeks im finding it so hard at the moment to talk to any one about it i was holding my dead baby when it come out of me i have one child at the moment but i would like to have more but im just so scared it will happen again i feel like i just wanna cry all the time im trying to be strong for my family i now loads of girls go frow it to i cope ur ok and u have a baby one day good luck i would like to talk to you more
this happened to me but my baby had died at about 7-8 weeks and was not found until my 12 week scan,my pregnancy symptoms faded but i had no bleeding and no idea anything was wrong.i had a natural miscarriage few days later and am trying again but the whole way in which i found out has left me traumatized and aftercare from nhs for us women who experience pregnancy loss is rubbish,when the miscarriage is complete thats it as far as they are concerned and we are left to come to terms with our loss without help guidance and information.i saw a private consultant last week and it was expensive but worth every penny,its only since having my questions answered that i feel ready to move on good luck just remember it wasnt your fault and hopefully we will both be pregnant again soon
hi i have just had a m/c i was 14 weeks pregnant i went for my 12 week scan and they said everything was fine and i saw my baby moving around it was the best thing i saw but wen i hit 14 weeks i started to bleed a little i went to a&e and they sent me home because i wasnt having any pain they told me everything was fine the next day i was bleeding a bit more i went back to a&e and they scaned me and told me i am losing my baby they made me an appointment for the d&c but the next day i was in really bad pain so my husband called an ambulance and at the hospital they told me i was in labour and i at to give birth to my little girl at 14 weeks that was the hardest thing i have ever been through just seeing her after and touching her i will never forget what i went through all i wont is my baby im trying again i just really wont to be pregnant again
im sorry about it being so long i just wonted to let poeple know what i went through and im so sorry about ur loss xxx
hi i went through a misscarige and give birth to it yesterday in hospital i started losing blood last thursday and doctors told me i would be ok and that baby was guna be fine and just booked me an appointment for the friday wen they took me for a scan they had told me that babys heart beat had stopped at nine weeks i was gunna b eeleven weeks on monday i have been in hospital since sunday nite and taken the tablets to start me into labour yesterday and my baby came out naturally i am so devastated i have been tryin for two years and wen doctors ccame back with my blood results yesterday they had found rubella cells in my blood which wud of caused me to misscarry.it feels like a nightmare but just cant wake up . dont no if i cud ever try to get pregant again for the point of i cudnt go through anythnig like this it turns youre world up side downw!!!!
I went through i miscarriage in jan 11. I hadnr een bleeding i was just having brown discharge when i wiped for about 3 days and thought nothing of it as my sister said she had it and her pregnancy was fine. But on the wednesfay i got sent home from work because i wa so upset. Called my midwife who then got me an appointment at EPAU for the next morning and was told to rest. I went the next day and had a scan, i had to have an internal which i then knew something was wrong as i was 10 weeks and she would have been able to detect through a belly scan. So i had the internal and after an agonising 5 minutes which seem like forever we were informed there was no heartbeat. She got a collegue to confirm and was told the embryo was only measuring at 7 and not 10
We were taken in to a room where we held eachother and cried. A nurse came in about 15 minutes later and explained it was called a missed miscarriage where yoir body still thinka you pregnqnt hense i was still having symptoms and a number of reasons why it happened but they will never know. I opted for a natural miscarriage which theu gave me 10 days to pass the baby naturally then if not a D&C was the next option but was told there were risks if the damaged my uterus while doing the procedure so i opted definately for the natural option. We went home and it was utter devestation. I couldnt sleep or eat for days and just wanted it to be ocer. Finally the sunday morning i woke up with a few cramps, nothing bad and felt something drop and the urge to go to the toilet and then it happened. The sac dropped into the tissue and i just sat there and stared and cried. It was hard and took me a whike to get over this.
I know how everyone is feeling but time is a great healer. I let my body get back to normal and am now 12 n half weeks pregnant.
So to everyone its hard but never give up. I still cry about the baby i lost but i have something thats helping me get through this.
hi am 8 weeks and last nite i started bleeding couldn't believe phone doctor and said to rest ...later on went to toilet and was still bleeding and it had little black dots in i don't know if anyone else has had that.....i woke up this morning went to toilet and he look like jelly ...got slight cramp like u do when u have period....i also notice that my boobs don't feel tender anymore and i was feeling really bloated before thats also gone ....please if anyone got the same please let me know and my heart goes out to u all xx